Title: 早海さんと呼ばれる日 Hayami-san to Yobareru Hi
English Title: Becoming Mrs. Hayami
Country: Japan
Language: Japanese
Year: 2012
Episode: 10
Cast:
- 松下奈緒 Matsushita Nao
- 井ノ原快彦 Inohara Yoshihiko
- 要潤 Kaname Jun
- 中丸雄一 Nakamura Yuichi
- 森永悠希 Morinaga Yuki
- 船越英一郎 Funakoshi Eichiro
- 古手川祐子 Kotegawa Yuko
SYNOPSIS
Kanai Yuriko is a manager in the planning department of a toy company, she has a college degree from a reputable university, her background is upper middle class, and she is an only child.
Yuriko falls in love with Hayami Kyoichi, the eldest son of the Hayami family. Kyoichi is in an entry-level position in the sales department within the same company, he didn't go to college, his background is middle class, and he is the eldest son with a big family to support.
Kyoichi and Yuriko get married and Yuriko resigns from work to be a full-time housewife. Although Kyoichi and Yuriko initially planned to live separately, his mother Hayami Yoko has disappeared so Yuriko insists that she and her husband move in his family home so she can help take care of his father Hayami Keitaro and his younger brothers Hayami Kenji, Hayami Kaoru, and Hayami Yuzo.
REVIEW
Hayami-san to Yobareru Hi is about a woman who finds out what it means to be a daughter-in-law to her husband's family.
It was initially surprising that Kanai Yuriko fell in love with Hayami Kyoichi because they are polar opposites. It was also mind-boggling that Yuriko's dream is to be a good housewife that she willingly gave up a flourishing career to be one when she married Kyoichi.
It was somewhat frustrating that she felt she had to choose between being a career woman and being a housewife when she is not even pregnant or planning to have children anytime soon. I would like to believe that in this day and age, women are more than capable to take care of both work matters and family matters especially if their husbands are also doing their share of responsibilities with family matters, such as with household chores and raising children.
When Yuriko lived with the Hayami family, she found out that her mother-in-law Hayami Yoko does all the household chores and is responsible for the family cafe or restaurant. I wonder if the mother-in-law is tasked with such responsibilities because she is a woman and if that is the case, then I really pity her for having four sons (and not having any daughters to at least help her with the chores).
But I really think it's unfair that girls and women are expected to do household chores but the boys and men are not expected to help out. I think all family members should be responsible for cleaning up their own spaces and messes, and should also have their own general tasks such as cleaning common areas. I mean, why not?!
It's even more frustrating when the men in the family even order the women to do the simplest things such as getting beer from the refrigerator or getting more servings of rice, which actually happens in the drama. I mean, people should be able to normally do these things for themselves if they are capable and independent.
I came from a culture that has the same practice, although perhaps in lesser degrees. However, I really can't find any acceptable cultural reason for such a practice except for 'it's always been the case'. So really, I think it's not right to keep such practices especially in these modern times.
I suppose for housewives, they can be generally expected to do a greater amount of the housework because they are not working but even then, other family members should be able to clean up after themselves and do things they can do on their own such as getting their own beer or getting their own second serving of rice.
And in cases where both husbands and wives work, then I think it's ridiculous to expect the wives to work and to do all the household chores. In such cases, it's even more appropriate to expect both parties to share family responsibilities and household chores equally.
Related:
早海さんと呼ばれる日 Hayami-san to Yobareru Hi (2012)
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早海さんと呼ばれる日 Hayami-san to Yobareru Hi
